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Dear Mirror of Life, I swear to tell the Truth, the whole Truth and nothing but the Truth…

Day 22 of the ‘Post A Day 2011′ challenge: Is it always better to know the truth, even when it hurts? Or is ignorance bliss? Or are they both true some of the time?

First of all: what exactly IS the truth? Is there even a thing as THE truth? Ask ten witnesses to an incident to tell you exactly what happened, and you will get ten different stories. It all depends on one’s point of view.

I do not need to know the truth about everything, please no. Carrying the additional weight of things that just don’t matter, are unavoidable or utterly unimportant, would be a waste of time and energy. If people hide something from me, it will be on their conscience and not on mine. I’m fine with a light veil of ignorance as long as the bliss part doesn’t turn into a fake reality. And as long as these little lies would not influence other people’s feelings and possible actions. Because that would be a totally different issue.

We need to know the truth to be able to form our own opinion and make decisions accordingly. Without the truth we have no choice. And we need to have these choices because it is OUR life! For example, if a close friend would be hypocrite about our friendship, I would need to know, even if it hurts. It would be my choice – and my choice alone – to accept this or to end the relationship. Trust is the one thing I can’t do without in matters of the heart, both in love and friendship. I have to be able to feel safe and trust in the ethics and honor of people I care deeply about. As they can in mine.

No one can look into your soul or read your thoughts. Only you can determine whether something is true or not. You can lie and cheat, but your heart and mind will know the truth anyway. Perhaps one day they will speak up. Just make sure your conscience is clean and that you act with respect, understanding and love. Then you will be able to make the right decision whenever you are in doubt whether to tell the truth, hide the truth or to lie. Perhaps about the amount of cookies you ate while you are on a diet 😉

Be true to your convictions
Be true to your honor
Be true to your loved ones
But most of all
Be true to yourself!

Photo double twist: Take a picture of a thing that expresses a truth.

The Mirror of Life: you can’t hide from yourself!


Caretaker of males, both human and feline. No lady, but all woman. Avid reader and photographer. Determined to find writing time during busy days. And nights if needed. Because I need you to meet the wonderful people who are living in my mind.

8 thoughts on “Dear Mirror of Life, I swear to tell the Truth, the whole Truth and nothing but the Truth…

  1. ehm, because of your writing….hahahaha.
    With love xxx
    Oh, and sure: i agree that if someone tells me that they are going to kill….i will get help. But first run out of the room we are in then :-).


  2. This one is heavy… i don’t want to know all things but i have very good friends who know they can confide in me and trust me.
    It’s up to them to tell the truth indeed when they find that the time is come to do so. And in few occasions that time never comes…. sometimes hard but it’s their decision and i respect it although i know the other side.
    And…i agree…sometimes it is the best decision NOT to tell the truth.
    It will only effect their and other lives.
    Maybe i’m guilty to…for not telling it instead but a secret is a secret.

    Sure, i know for myself that i also keep things to myself because if i constantly have to speak “the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth; so help me God”
    🙂 ….there are people who would not appreciate it
    (but that’s merely to keep people from getting hurt- in feelings- 🙂 i mean absolutely no harm by that.)

    There was a scene in Titanic: The ‘old Rose’ tells the crew that she never told anyone about ‘Jack’ because “a womans heart is as deep as an ocean” (or big? if i remember it correctly?) and that’s the line for me.
    True friendship! Do not betray it and keep your mouth shut.
    You don’t know what feelings you might hurt if you’ll slip your tongue.

    It is as you say, you will always have to answer to yourself, and live with it xxx

    Pfew, it’s really philosopher’s time… I’ll think i will take a sip from my wine (that my love just gave me)
    Cheers! To life!


    1. To life, dear Karin. Thank you so much for contributing to this post 🙂

      Agreed: when a friend tells you a secret, you keep your mouth shut. Period.

      BUT it’s your friend’s responsibility what he or she is sharing! If – for example – a person is confiding in you that he or she’s about to kill someone, you just HAVE to take action, friend or no friend. Sometimes the voice of reason has to overrule the voice of friendship. And if a secret is dark and terrible, it should not be shared. Better still, it shouldn’t exist at all.

      Now how on earth did we get to this subject?


  3. I love this post! What you wrote is so very true…one can try and fool other people but at night when one is all alone with their thoughts they know exactly who they have cheated, hurt or lied to. Sometimes I slip up but I try very hard to remember that God sees all I do and knows what’s in my heart. The other day I was purchasing several items and when the total came up I knew it was wrong. I told the cashier that she forgot to ring up an item. She looked at me as if I had two heads! lol When she scanned the missed item she didn’t even say ‘thank you’. 🙂 Feeling good about myself was the best reward! 🙂


    1. And the wonderful thing is that we can learn from our mistakes. It’s never too late to change.

      Sometimes it’s wiser to let things rest, and at other times you simply have to tell the truth. Because else the relation with that other person would not be open and honest.

      I never tell when I eat a whole bowl of salted popcorn! Oops, I guess I just did 😉

      You are so right, feeling good about yourself is the best proof you did something right. You don’t need the confirmation of others… at least not all of the time. Still a ‘Thank you,’ would have been nice.

      How I absolutely LOVE this WordPress challenge. It makes you dig deep into your heart and mind, makes you think about subjects you would normally not think about. We’re all little philosophers at the end of the year haha.


  4. Excellent post, Marion. This entry reminds me of the saying, “Character is what you do when no one is looking.” That is where we mus start in order to find our inner truth.


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